I think after a while the disappointment gets exhausting — whether it be from a bunch of dates with no real connection or guys not messaging back or what.
Online dating is also just time-consuming.” – Kate, mid-twenties*.
While there are plenty of people who have found a great match using a dating app, there still seems to be a lot of weird people who use the app and think they can say whatever they want.
Women, in particular, report receiving inappropriate (or just plain weird) first messages from men.
They are a whopping 125 percent more likely to feel addicted than those from older generations.
Not surprising, when you consider how much more active most of them are on dating apps.
I was talking to a group of my girlfriends the other day and the topic of dating came up. No, neither had entered into a relationship and was now deleting their apps because their exclusive relationship required it, but rather, they were deleting their apps because they were talking to too many men, going on too many uneventful first dates, sending out too many messages only to receive radio silence, and getting too many “Sups” from uninspired suitors.
These women were deleting their dating apps because they were tired.
Though using a dating app is exciting when you first download it, most dating apps out there are incredibly similar and you’ll quickly get bored.
I usually delete Tinder because I get no messages or matches.
And I really have no time for mindless small talk and flaky people.
I don’t believe hookup culture has infected our brains and turned us into soulless sex-hungry swipe monsters. It doesn’t do to pretend that dating in the app era hasn’t changed. Tinder arrived in 2012, and nipping at its heels came other imitators and twists on the format, like Hinge (connects you with friends of friends), Bumble (women have to message first), and others.
Older online dating sites like OKCupid now have apps as well.